“I regret to announce the passing on
of Self-Control. Until his death, he was the guiding mantra in the lives of
human beings. He leaves behind a world full of chaos where people can do
whatever they like without feeling guilty.”
Excuse the
silly eulogy. I was just trying to find out how it would feel like to think of
self-control as a mortal person who can undergo death. Seriously though, mortal
or not, self-control is dead in very many people. It is so dead that the lack
of self-control is the new normal.
An Inability to Say No
I have
learnt that every single addiction or indulgence is brought about by an
inability to say no. I recently wrote about the power of “No” because I also
realised that I was saying “No” fewer and fewer times even where I really
needed to.
Recovering
alcoholics recall that very first sip of beer they took and they wish they
never did. Smokers tell of the first teary eyed-choking-coughing- inducing puff
that ushered them into a life-long bondage, and brought them to death’s
doorstep through possible lung cancer. People like to talk of how every
prostitute was once a virgin. Each of these people who are stuck in a habit or
addiction they can’t untangle themselves from, wish they said “No” when they had
the chance. They lost their self control and it is going to be a tall order to
try and reclaim it now.
Parenting
People say
that parenting today is harder than it used to be during our parent’s time. I
beg to differ. I think today we teach children that it’s not important to
exercise self control. Instead, we tell them that it is good for them to follow
their hearts (in this case meaning what they feel like at the particular
moment). Children are on free fall as far as self control is concerned and the same
applies to their parents. What used to be special privileges when we were kids
are now referred to as inalienable rights.
Gluttony
According to
the bible, gluttony is considered a sin. For those who may be sinning
unknowingly, gluttony is eating more food than the body needs. We have many
foods today that are hard to say no to. Just one more bite! It is that one more
bite that leads a person to become overweight and eventually, obese. We all
know where this ends up – lifestyle diseases that either cost a bomb to treat
or lead to an early grave.
There is a
field of medicine known as Bariatric surgery. It is concerned with helping
obese people lose weight by surgically reducing the size of their stomachs and
thereby their “healthy” appetites. Most of the specialists in this field are
convincing people who are morbidly obese that there is no other option to
control their weight unless they undergo either a gastric bypass surgery, or
the insertion of a gastric band to reduce their food intake capacity. Self
control is all but out rightly discouraged.
Sex
The newest
addiction in town is that of sex. It is not helped by the media and advertising
where they say that sex sells. The number of women a man has slept with is
considered more of an accolade than as a cause for concern. Women, particularly
young ones, do not want to be considered sissies for having very high
standards. They are therefore willing to disrobe for any man who shows the
faintest interest in them. It is surprising but true that many of them don’t
know that they can actually say “No” and still be cool.
Just like
addiction to drugs, food, or alcohol, many people don’t realise they are
addicted to sex until they are too deep in it. They are unknowingly financing a
multibillion shilling industry that is involved in producing pornography, sex
toys, and trafficking in staggering numbers of women for prostitution or sex
slavery. Those without the means or motivation to display their addictions openly
are busy “wanking” away in the bondage of masturbation.
Blame it on the Genes
Research is
at advanced stages in the field of genetics to prove that all those people
addicted to food, drugs, alcohol, and sex, are genetically predisposed to be
so. I may not know what causes us to be addicted to various habits and
substances. Some of us think it is because we have failed to nurture a culture
of self control. Some experts, as seen above, say we are born that way.
Whatever the cause, it is up to every individual to do what they can in order to
control their cravings.
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